Plus, it creates an obligation never to overschedule. Everybody else we date in the foreseeable future is getting synced into my iCal. (Half kidding.)

Plus, it creates an obligation never to overschedule. Everybody else we date in the foreseeable future is getting synced into my iCal. (Half kidding.)

Maybe Perhaps Not feelings that are suppressing

My friend Michael explained, “The ‘traditional’ marriage agreement says, ‘I’ll love you forever and do not love another,’ but that is a vow most can’t keep, and probably why 1 / 2 of modern marriages end up in divorce or separation.” Michael claims he has got a desire to possess many deep psychological connections rooted in friendship.

We have actuallyn’t cheated back at my ex-boyfriends, but We confess to desires that are feeling times and confusion about those desires. But because I happened to be in a monogamous relationship, we quashed those feelings and wrote them down as “wrong.” But according to polyamory, those aren’t wrong — they have been normal. But due to my very own worries we had, I felt I couldn’t express those feelings that we might break up and the unspoken agreement.

Centering on skills and never to locate “Better”

Here’s a serial monogamist’s playbook: you leave somebody for the possibility another person could be better.

In polyamory, there isn’t any “better,” only “different.” And that means you don’t need to keep the best thing if it’s missing something — you simply include another to meet that absence. If an individual partner is intellectual and wonderful yet not specially social, that doesn’t have to be a deal breaker. Continue reading “Plus, it creates an obligation never to overschedule. Everybody else we date in the foreseeable future is getting synced into my iCal. (Half kidding.)”